We all make mistakes. We will learn from those mistakes. Amends can be made for any harm we have done, and we can change our behavior and attitude so that we won’t repeat the same errors. Thus, even painful past experiences can help us learn to create a better future.
The greatest obstacle to this learning process is shame. Shame is an excuse to hate ourselves today for something we did or didn’t do in the past. There’s no room in the shame filled mind for the fact that we did our best at the time, no room to accept that as human beings we are bound to make mistakes.
If I feel ashamed, I need a reality check because my thinking is probably distorted. Even though it may take great courage, I will interrupt the self-destructive thoughts and make room for more Loving and nurturing point of view. Shame is a sham. Forgive yourself and move on.
With letting go of the past, I may discover that even my most embarrassing moments can bless my life by teaching me to turn in a more positive direction.
“The ultimate lesson all of us had to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well“