We all make mistakes. We will learn from those mistakes. Amends can be made for any harm we have done, and we can change our behavior and attitude so that we won’t repeat the same errors. Thus, even painful past experiences can help us learn to create a better future. The greatest obstacle to this learning process is shame. Shame is an excuse to hate ourselves today for something we did or didn’t do in the past. There’s no room in the shame filled mind for the fact that we did our best at the time, no room to accept that as human beings we are bound to make mistakes. If I feel ashamed, I need a reality check because my thinking is probably distorted. Even though it may take great courage, I will interrupt the self-destructive thoughts and make room for more Loving and nurturing point of view. Shame is a sham. Forgive yourself and move on.
With letting go of the past, I may discover that even my most embarrassing moments can bless my life by teaching me to turn in a more positive direction. “The ultimate lesson all of us had to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well“ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Perhaps the most effective prayer uttered by Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane was “Father, all things are possible onto you. Let this cup pass from me. Nevertheless not my will, but yours be done.”
You achieve an enormous sense of self worth when you realize that you are teamed up with God and doing wonderful work in this world. There is a plan for your life. Nothing can happen with you as long as you think that you are worthless, ineffective, and unworthy. God can only do great things through self confident human beings. You build yourself up to self-confidence when you have pursued your faith, followed your life with integrity, and ask for forgiveness.
The real purpose of your faith is to look at your team and know with God all things are possible.
No matter what has happened in your life, God is there for you. And as hard and as crazy as it may sound, when the walls collapse and the world tumbles in, and when it looks like everything that we’ve loved is lost, that is the time to say “Thank you God!” As I say this I cringe… “oh that’s too hard to do. You don’t know what I’ve lost! How can I possibly think God? I don’t want to thank him. I want to argue with him. I want to put things back the way they were.” Of course you want God to repair the damage that is deflating you, disappointing you, discouraging you, or defeating you. You want your job back, you want your money back, you want your loved one back; you want your health back. This is the most crucial time to say “Thank you God.”
Your faith in believing in what is meant to be, accepting it and moving on is how to make your life the best it can be…that is what life is all about.